i know my husband cheated but he won't admit it

It sounds a bit crowded, which is difficult for any relationship. Im such a bright educated woman yet Im so alone. So how odd is that. He still continued to treat me very bad. To focus on ME, and whats left of my life .. and Heal from this, all while knowing I am doing the most loving thing for ME. Hi. All breakups hurry for a while but its not the end of the world and you will emerge a stringer, more confident, happier woman. STARTED TALKING TO ME ON MY JOB. @ Eya, I hear youyou make some good points.. and yes, it is my feeling that he has cheated on me, even if only emotionally but just to clarify some maybes you mentioned: It was certainly not his dream job thats for sure. STay strong! I always ask him to take a test..but the answer will be no. But his interactions with me dont come across as just sexual interest (we havent had sex yet, not crossed that line thank goodness but are close. Unfortunately that need inside coupled with insecurity and weakness has created a flood of uncertainty in a good marriage or potential relationship. As I read your comments I think to myself YES! He had an affair of the heart spending time with a woman that he knows everything about and maybe that worries you more than whether he had sex. I just try my best and I wont regret after everything is come to end. nothing .. just dont pay him any attention.. thats the best way .. one day he will see what he lost if he really loves u.. act as if u dont care what he is doing , go out with friends and have a good time .. i promise the thoughts are still there and u wish he was there .. Do U!! I am still in shock as we never even had a fight. He opens the car door for me and asks me to wait in the car while he comes around to my side to open it. Its a form of manipulation. well i told him i did not want them talking theres no need for him to have pictures of another women in his phone. I never forgot his birthday. Say good bye, change the locks go see a nice psychologist who can lift up your spirits while you are sad about this. When id try to clean up the room i saw all the things of her ex. Oh it hurtsI know that from just a short time of watching my ex.or will he be my BF againpandering to another woman. And he has his phone on him all the time, sometimes he leaves without telling me and his excuse is that his walking the dogs but when I call him while his walking the dogs it seems like his in the beach bathroom all the time (we live right next to the beach). Is it that he is bored with me and cant connect? You give me hope Chad. he hasent even been on ours yet. something that i really do not understand?! Staying with a cheater continues this feeling since they already decided to fill a void that you, purportedly could not fill and you will continually wonder if and when it will happen again. I found out two months ago he had been sexting a work colleague. - Want to Know. Someone please help. And what is the statistic, 77% of guys who cheat are friends with other guys who cheat. To avoid potential loss - their marriage, their kids, their home, their finances, their social standing, etc. I thought-what a coward. Youll have no one but yourself to blame if you wake up in 20 years after wasting your life trying to hold on to a man who has made it clear that he thinks youre not even worth trying to lie to. He PREYS on vulnerable woman like myself. Because lately all he seams interested in is video games, porn, and what ever he wants to do. I am sorry, Remy, and I can relate to your situation except mine was my husband of 30 years. Youll also want to know if its just about sex or if they are both in love. Of course your boyfriend wants you and her! We been together 3 years married for 2 i hate that she thinks i am cheating it i understand why she thinks that but i am not. Why must someone always search for clues? I day later my husband had a pass code on his phone. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Due to financial problems, him and I were living with his parents the last few years and in early October of this year, I moved out. I was truly taken advantage of at a very vulnerable time, he added a LOT more severe emotional pain & acted like he could care less about hurting me worse! These words hurt me very much because I thought I was his perfect partner. One of the problems with cheating is that its a slippery slope. This will help you take steps forward and perhaps even heal your marriage. I am 47 years old and this is only the 3rd infection in my life. Our sex life became very dull due to his lack of desire. Help knowing when to break up, so you can find a healthy relationship. Were barely past our first wedding anniversary. Hed forgotten. Infidelity is a sign of no respect for the spouse who is hurt by it, the relationship and the cheating husband has absolutely no respect for himself. But he has done some really bad things too. He looked me in the eye and told me I shouldnt believe anything she had told me and that she was crazy and loved to mess his relationships up. We go out of town from time to time for training. I was single for about two years, when I first laid eyes on him. everytime i tell him like i feel like youre having an affair he gets mad n tells me im too much.pls help me =/. my husband always had a very abusive personality in all senses. I want to give her the best advise, however my instinct is to say just pack your bags and leave, I think he is having an affair. I dont know your husband at all, but I know men sometimes pull away when they feel stressed or unable to care for their families. Why would two of your friends say that he is cheating? (he knew how they hated me so used them as an escape). You need to understand that you deserve better and cut your losses before you are 30 years, 3 kids and 3 grandkids in. It sounds like he did do something dodgy that night or he would of told you where he went but I suggest you talk to him very calmly and just say that you wont get mad you just need to know if hes done it again because youd like to work things out for the sake of your children if he admits or not you should get couples counselling. I didnt trust him he left that work place and I told him if he didnt get me the girls number then I would call his ex boss and disclose everything to him. however when I filed for divorce everything turned against me. 1 man, 1 woman, both had witnessed rubbing, hugging, her leaning on him, playing games on a computer together in a room alone and flirting all the time. They shared lovely emails and text messages which my husband always deleted. Listen Husband if I dont get the answers from you, I have a private investigator and I have been advised that nothing from your phone is deleted. and God bless! I asked again the next day and he said there is no one. I found he is on hook up sites. Science has shown that genetic redundancy produces problems in offspring. You need to get strong and find who you are outside of your marriage. That time, I mean we just started dating and he met both of at the same time, so I guess he was choosing. Perhaps he cheated because he felt you withheld sex; however, youre likely going to want to work at your marriage before youre intimate with him again. Hello, I have been married for 11 years now. Use the emotional judo of knowing that most affairs burn out and decide for yourself how long you will . I have been with my husband for 20 years we have been married for 16. I admit that I was not always attracted to him sexually and at times we only had sex twice a week. She does not believe he feels there is a problem. They dont have childrenHe is still cheating wht a woman named Cecilia for the past 9 years. He was and always has been the most affectionate man who couldnt keep his hands off of me for 10vofctyesec12 years. IT MIGHT SOUND SO STRANGE TO YOU BUT IT FEELS LIKE ME WHEN I READ YOURS MY HUSBAND HAS BEING HAVING AFFAIR WITH HIS PERSONAL ASSISTANT FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS NOW AND IT WAS NOT HIM WHO SPILLED THE BEANS IT WAS HER AND WHEN I ASK HE GETS ANGRY AND DENIES IT ALL THE TIME BUT I KNOW IT HAS BEEN HAPPENING THE LYING , WORKING LATE THEY ALWAYS TOGETHER BUYS HIS CLOTHES GOES TO THE CHEMIST TAKES HIS CLOTHES TO THE TAILORS AND BELIEVE ME SHE IS NOTHING TO LOOK AT SHE IS HUGE AND SO OVER WEIGHT AND SHE IS ALWAYS AT OUR HOUSE IM A HAIRDRESSER SO I WORK WEEKENDS SO WHEN I GET HOME SHE WILL BE AT OUR HOUSE TILL LATE IT HAS GOT SO BAD THAT I HAVE BANNED HER FROM OUR HOUSE MY BOYS ALSO DONT LIKE HER IT FEELS LIKE SHE IS HIS SECOND WIFE. Of course it is possible that he is but his behavior also may just be him pulling away. May you be true to you. In June of 2010 a new Secretary was hired in his department. tell him something like this:I noticed the other day you have a whole bunch of msgs in the phone, I bet its a hastle to delete them, while you go have your shower/watch tv/something, would you like me to help you in deleting your read msgs?. Different, young (mid 20s), easily disposable. Not only that, he risked your health too. SO much. If the gym isnt your thing, even a walk outdoors or joining a yoga class can really help to clear your mind. Hell keep cheating and lying until he decides to leave you. So after learning about narcissism, I understood I was a victim. what are your thoughts on this situation? And I can't handle it. I completely understand how you feel, but if I were you, I would just try to be chill about it, unless you see that theyre talking about something inappropriate. He says he will never do it again, that i will be his focus and that when he feels like he needs to be a full MAN again, he will focus that energy he spent on finding craigslist women, he will focus on finding things to spice up our marriage, OR plan weekend getaways. Sometimes writing your thoughts can help you work things out, because it can bring clarity and insight. Maybe it would have been to have enjoyed sex together more or spending more time as a family as well as date nights, or things like that. I eventually get pregnant for the 3rd time with our daughter who is now going on 4 months. Oddly enough, even with the knowledge that a man has cheated, some women stay. He went from 400 or so text a month, to almost 2000 text during the affair. I dont know. He later (about2-3 weeks) told me it was nothing serious. I do think a man would be crazy to give up a woman who offers what you suggest. You do need some help!! The look on both their faces was priceless and he chased me down when I walked out. If you thinkyour husband is cheating on you, you may be picking up on subconscious clues that he is having an affair. His answer is always the same youre the only woman I want, the only one I need. I honestly dont know how much more of this I can take and I really wish I could confront him about it all. I had this strange feeling or question in my head because they were still friendly and their last break up somehow , to me, seemed to be left open ended. We have a three year old daughter together. To avoid a confrontation. When i confronted him, He accepted and told me it was the daughter of a male colleague at work, when i investigated, it was another lie. I feel his distance from me. And yet I did see. Mistake #1: Launching an Investigation. I think counseling is a good idea even if you decide to stay, because you need to learn how to live with a husband you dont trust. We moved onwards from there, but it always felt like something was wrong. I cant deal with this.please help me. to me its clear that he is still connected to his childs mother. He went to great lengths to make me feel secure. Songs were written about this, that's how much it's true. My prayer for all women who think their husbands are lying about cheating is for clarity, wisdom, and guidance. my husband is having an affair and he is denying it, My husband is cheating and denying it all the time. Dont give him your power. I finally decided to report him to cheating websites only for the fact that I truly pitty anyone that gets with him. He has every single sign of an affair. And, yes, I have no doubt that that time was a scary, perhaps even depressing time for him, but he had every control over every decision he made, his decision to text her while in bed with me, his decision to run to her rescue the moment she said so, the decision to leave family functions to meet with her on weekends at the office etc etc etc Nothing about his actions indicated that he was concerned about how I may feel, that in all that time, I was not important at all, to the point that he would tell me that if I felt the way I did, then I must leave. I would out when one night he came and took the keys to his parents house, because they were on vacation abroad. This is my story, why do we all stay? But we do! this set off many alarms. I have been married for a little over 5yrs. Give yourself time to figure things out and clear your head so that you can have a peace of mind. Men are highly overrated. Dont just jump to I dont know what to do. Instead, take 15 minutes and ask your body and soul what you should do. Get out. And I did. Last year I created a false identity phoney picture etc. What privacy does a husband deserve FROM HIS WIFE? They had been texting, talking on Facebook and God only knows what at work. It sounds like youve learned how to cope without living in a bad relationship, and youre much happier. He is a manipulative control freak!!! The uncertainty about whether he has ever cheated on me is what makes me think I should leave. I mean he has never had to do anything for himself when he comes home, ill have his house clean his son taken care of, I always have dinner on the table right when he walks through the door. I checked his Facebook page while I was at it. I cant even say i understand my husband anymore. And it hurts to be slapped in the face with this realism. Like when we have financial issues he sits me down and always reassures me that we will make it through it. It shows weak character. My gut instinct is what got him caught and still tells me to this day that he is guilty and lied to me. She was already in a relationship too so it ended. (He has a very chill job and usually wore sweats) well Up until 3 weeks ago. I just wish he could feel more secure with me and tell me he talks to girls, but they are just friends, and I know I need to tell him how I feel How do I find out if he is still pursuing other girls? We went and the night before the party we were all drinking and at a indoor pool having a get together. I thought we were so perfect together, he was my safe place and my best friend. It was a constant, almost hourly effort of rebuilding trust and intimacy in their marriage. Now hes talking in his sleep about having sex with another person.. I hope that helps. Its just messed my other guy friends give me more attention than he do. Last year June my fiance asked for pictures of a girl he worked with and as for me I consider it cheating. Please understand. i have aassumed he was messing around on me but anytime i would confrony him he would get very angry and upset tell me it was the way im thinking that i needed to trust him. Ive been with my husband for 23 years and in the last few years 2 women have contacted him on facebook saying hes the father of their kids. What should I do? If I cant get pass this would it be better to just file for divorce? Monogamy not part of a mans nature. She didnt want sex anymore and her medication became her real love. SO MY VERDICT IS..NOANGER IS NOT A SIGN OF CHEATINGITS A SIGN OF IVE HAD IT!!!!!!!!!!! Companionship = Man. 2. I have been married for 2 years. Couldnt come up with a reasonable answer. Im not sure what to do. When I asked him point blank if he was cheating, he asked me why I thought he was cheating. I think about it almost daily. He didnt return any of my calls. If you really suspect him, you could consider following him. I know women can be fragile and look to attach to anyone showing attention when their spouse is not doing the job. Im crying for you right now, because I wish someone would have warned me about what my life was going to be like if I stayed with him!! HELLO. None were sexual but, he has told other women that he loves them, hes had women bring him lunch to work, hes driven their cars, etc. Excuses are just that. Im exhausted disappointed. However I still think they slept together but just get the real truth out of him. We saw counselors while he was in treatment and I expressed I felt he was truly in love with this woman. when i would ask husband whats going on he would say he was only being nice. As a female I get sick and tired of other females male bashing. Stacey how did you put tracker on his phone without him knowing my husbands is password protected and they have to except thanks for the help pam. Thats how bad it was. Im so confused now. How does he expect me to believe this story? My kids have also took a back seat.. Garbage in, garbage out I suppose. 6 Tips, When Your Life Feels Empty and Meaningless Without Love. He has never kept anything from me before no matter what it was so I just let it go. He even wiped his Ipad from everything you possibly can wipe. He does not deserve your love or loyalty. Until 2 years ago I thought that I could trust him emphatically. Anyway, read the article I wrote for you. Hi all- I have been married for 43 yrs. I want to trust him.. and I dont have any real evidence of any kind of infidelity I read the signs of a husband cheating, and he doesnt really exhibit any of these.. if anything, hes hyper-sexual with me, and always has been. On my end, the phone rang multiple times, then went to voicemail. My husband started cheating when I left for a job. It doesnt hurt that its fun. Id also like to add that therapy and books are wonderful way to get insight on this issue but a real discussion is much more effective with people who dont know you personally and will not be bias or possibly because you are paying for their expertise. I just checked his cell phone (since hes still asleep). She had a problem with this becuase where ever we went, there were people that knew me, so i decided to take her out of town where this would hopefully not be a problem. Mabel i would be moving on with my life. This pain is torturing. So is he cheating? My neighbors and I see her all the timebut not the wife. He told me there wasnt a need to do that because he didnt sleep with her. The best way to know if you can trust your husband is if he takes himself out of possibly bad situations. When I questioned my husband who this young lady was he said that its one of his co- workers sister and that the meet her through him. Before you learn how to confront a cheater, prepare yourself for the obvious: The majority of cheating spouses will deny-deny-deny cheating until they are blue in the face. I always have. I had two small children, too, and I moved on from me cheating husband. My heart goes out to you, and to myself .. heck, to ALL of the women on this board .. there IS life after this type of devastation, and the only way out of this insanity is to cut off all contact, and Heal. He admitted she emailed him for the next four weeks and he would answer her back. I told him again dont lend out your phone it needs to stop . They just dont have any responsibility. I have seen flirtations in emails to and from other women that he denies. Very Narsassistic!!! When I had an affair I used intimate words. Who would have thought it would have taken getting divorced to wind up in such a situation? She was mad and threatening to tell me. He doesnt take as much time for me as he could. Should I confront him and take my chances with getting an answer or just let it go until our time is up overseas? I trusted him with my every being. And i have to say she is little shady. They dont typically do it to have a brood of offspring from different menalthough that might be a part of the reason at a subconscious level. In Is He Lying to You? He makes it sound like I am crazy and tells me not everything is about me! Am I crazy? Im in counseling, and hes quit drinking. On top of all this he says he loves me and the other women were just mistakes as he was feeling rejected by me. The majority of women Ive had sex with were married or in a LTR. later. I would love to, but I just cant keep up. Divorce his ass let him be with his multiple emotional affairs (although condom wrappers do not constitute emotional ONLY affairs.. THEY WILL BREAK YOUR HEART ! I decided to forgive him and he decided to deactivate his Facebook. That way, when he sees you next looking strong and beautiful, he will feel beyond guilty and desperate to win you back regardless of whether you want him or not. Why do you suspect your husband is cheating what are the signs hes lying to you? to Lynne, you asked, so heres my (Im a guy btw) answer: first, maybe it was his dream job, and he never though he could find anything like that, so if it means he has to work a year without pay (and apparently, it was something you guys were able to stomach be it just barely) it might be something worth trying. It sounds like you and your daughter are very close! Another suggestion is to check his phone, and call his last incoming and outgoing numbers. I am sure because his patience is now wearing thin from all my accusations and worries. And, even if you justified that and counted all the wonderful things about this guy and pointed out the amazing loss of a potentially wonderful friendship with him, you still identify the loss of his friendship as a risk. So is this the reason you are asking women who have suffered financial loss, emotional pain beyond words because you want to be sure to get a different perspective from women who have suffered so you can prevent yourself from making a mistake and taking an unnecessary risk? The best thing is to get evidence, so you have something solid to confront him with. I just need to know 100% the truth before I walk away i need clousure. I didnt see the big deal. Thank u very much! He held me for those hours too. Ask his friends, as many cheating husbands will get their friends to cover for them. If you didn't cheat on your husband, he most likely passed the STD on to you. They usually invited themselves, she would always ask when can we go out on the boat. Things have been wierd with my husband and me. He has told me about this girl but referred to her only as a work contact that hes trying to do a project with, and based on their texts they have seen each other a number of times that he didnt mention to me and their conversations are definitely not work related. Do you need to know for sure that hes lying about cheating on you? I still do not know to this day what was worse founding out about him having an affair or what went on after he was found out. Thanks G. My bf of 5 years cheated with an ex from middle school in oct. And when I talked to him about it and asked him if he still wanted to be me and work things out he said yes but I found out for about 2 months he was still talking to her and he is still lying about what happened. They slept together but just get the real truth out of town from time to time for me I it. Much happier blank if he was cheating, he most likely passed the STD on you. 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